Sometimes, without realizing it, we let so much of our happiness depend on someone we love. A little attention makes our day. Their silence leaves us wondering what we did wrong. We wait for them to understand us, to show up, to care in the way we hoped they would.
And when they don’t, it hurts.
Even after being disappointed, we still find ourselves hoping. Because knowing we need to depend less on someone doesn’t make loving them any easier.
How do you love someone deeply without letting their every action decide whether you’re okay?
I’m learning that I can love someone and still have a life that feels like mine. I can care about them, miss them, and want them close, while making room for the things that bring me joy on my own.
It’s a hard lesson. Some days, I still struggle with it.
But I want to keep loving without losing myself. My heart needs somewhere to rest, even when someone else cannot give me what I hoped for. 💛
T.L. Eggert
